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Differences Between Dating A Boy And A Man

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You may think that a boy and a man are the same thing but I could bet you that their entirely different. When you start dating a boy, you’ll know the huge difference and you may pray to meet the man of your dreams instead of meeting the boy of your dreams.

Normally, boys grow up to be real men but sometimes, they just grow but their mindset is still as childish as little boys and that’s why you got to be careful on who to choose among many others that you’ll complete your whole life with.

And in case you don’t know the difference between these two, we’ll tell you the difference between dating a man and dating a boy.

A boy may tell you he loves you. A man tells you they love you and actually backs it up with his actions. Actions actually speak louder than words. You can speak all you want but only men take actions to prove to you that they actually want and love you.

A boy makes you feel like you’re not good enough, worthless and not to mention, how perfect he is and you’re not. However, a man makes you want to be a better person because you have so much genuine respect for him. Don’t choose the better guy but choose the guy who makes you the better girl.

A boy is controlling and dominating. A man is protective. A boy thinks that acting like a man is how he controls your actions but on the other hand, a man trusts you and knows that you’re his backbone but protects you whenever you actually need the protection.

A boy will constantly make you feel ashamed of your accomplishments and always make you feel that you constantly in need to downgrade or diminish your achievements just for the sake he wouldn’t feel like the lower hand in the relationship, or feel embarrassed, or even radiate a little more than him. On the other hand, a man is not threatened by your success, but proud of it, and inspired by it. He will keep talking about how amazing you are and he’ll always be at the end of the room clapping for you and smiling proudly.

A boy will think that he’s the prize. A man acknowledges that he have to put in work and are eagerly willing to do so.

A boy wants a woman to chase him. On the other hand, a man understands his role as a leader and will find you no matter what the circumstances are.

A boy is always “testing” — he doesn’t fully commit because he never knows if he is quite ready. But the truth is, because he is a boy, regardless of who he meets, he will never be ready due to the stage of life he is in. However, a man knows when to invest in a woman and jump in with two feet.

A boy is interested and involved with his own interests. However, a man cannot enjoy himself unless he’s sure you are too. A man actually puts your happiness first, he chooses you and only you. He makes you priority in his life.

A boy focuses on what he wants now, now, now. A boy never actually looks forward, only under his knees. A man lives in the now but is always planning for the future. A man thinks about your future children’s names, the happy house you’ll both call home someday, you two being the happiest married couple, expressing your vows in the wedding ceremony, and that’s all he thinks about, building a joyful happy family.

A boy will spend time with the friends of yours – only if he likes them. A man will spend time with your friends and family regardless of his feelings towards them, because if they’re important to you, they’re important to him. He will love them just because you do!

A boy undervalues you. On the other hand, a man isn’t afraid to challenge you; he acknowledges what you’re actually capable of and he knows you can do anything. Instead of putting you down, he raises your self esteem!

A boy will let his desires control him. A man will respect your purity.

A boy will be interested in your life for as long as he can get something out of it. A man will be interested in your life because he cares about you and wants to understand you more deeply as a person. He wants to help you out with your problems, he wants to be there for you when no one is.

A boy will respect you only if he wants something in return. A man will respect you no matter the circumstance are.

A boy will make excuses as to why he can’t provide. A man will sacrifice a lot and do whatever it takes just so he can provide.

A boy is always thinking of whether or not he could do better, he thinks he’s always the best and you’re lucky that he’s in your life. A man knows when he has something good right in front of him and never takes it for granted. A man can actually change for the better just for the sake of you being happy but a boy thinks that there’s no better than him.

A boy is intimidate by the idea of feminism, convinced that being a feminist classifies you as angry, aggressive, man-hating, and independent. A man understands that feminism is simply the belief that men and women are equal. He knows how independent you are and how strong you can be.

A boy will look to gain popularity from people around him. An actual man will look to gain the respect of your family and friends.

A boy thinks he must take you under his wing. Although, a man knows that a relationship actually means the two of you are providing equally for each other.

A boy changes his beliefs depending on the girl he’s with. A man is firm in his beliefs.

A boy holds back and restraints everything up, and lashes out and scolds you because of too much anger or other stifled emotions. A man admits when he needs you and isn’t afraid you’ll judge him. When he needs to talk, he goes to you and communicates with you truthfully, even if that means him feeling uncomfortable.

A boy makes promises he knows he can’t keep. A man has integrity.

A boy constantly makes excuses for his screwed up actions. A man admits when he makes a mess out of things, and always does everything he can to fix it. A man actually apologizes but a boy could blame you for his mistakes like you’re some hanger in his life.

A boy is either inseparable or impossible to get hold of. A man always makes time for you, while also making sure he has a life outside your relationship. He gives you your own space, too.

A boy is only interested in beauty, on what is one the outside just so he can show off. A man appreciates, cherish and admires your physical beauty, but is most attracted to your personality, the inner beauty. An actual man seeks more than just beauty. He sees you on what’s on the inside, and it’s out that counts, after all.

A boy thinks he already knows everything and that he’s never mistaken. A man walks around with the mindset that there is always something new to learn from everyone he contends with.

A boy needs you because of his brittle narcissism. A man needs you because he believes his life is better with you in it. He actually needs you as a companion in his life, helping him make life decisions and granting happiness to the both of you.

A boy is anxious with how you dress and look in front of his friends. A man does not care about what other people think, as long as you’re happy together. A man always blooms his girl when she’s around his friends, he always speaks about her like she’s the best person in his world in front or behind her back!

A boy is ready to do anything to get what he wants. A man is ready to love without hesitation and to sacrifice things he loves for you.

When you actually date a REAL MAN, you’ll start getting used to statements like, “Don’t worry babe, I’ve got it.” , “Let’s go …” , “Let’s do it …” , “When are you free this week? I want to take you out for dinner.” , “I planned this for us.” and “I got you a gift just because …” Instead of dealing with, “Sorry, I forgot.” , “I can’t make it, not today.” , “You didn’t text me first.” , “I was busy.” , “Let’s chill.” and “Sorry for not texting you all day.” Type of man.

Real men don’t love the most beautiful girl in the world. They love the girl who can make their world the most beautiful.

Have you learned what being a man is and what are a boy’s actions, yet? Choose wisely the man of your dreams and don’t ever let, what is entitled as, love, blind you from his actions.

Nadia Haitham, who is a sixteen year old teenager, fantasizes and creates images in people’s minds using written words. She has always admired the idea of writing ever since she was a little girl with piggy tails and somehow, she’s chasing her dream! Nadia is currently an IGCSE student in The Continental School Of Cairo and she’s in the eleventh grade. They say Nadia is too young but she asks repeatedly, “if I don’t start now, then when?!” She blows her candles on the fifteenth of July, her zodiac sign is Cancer and she’s Egyptian. In 2015, she has written her first completed book that’s called, “Love Of A Teenage Girl” which is published on a writing website called, Wattpad. She has won several awards for the book which she’s planning to publish in the future. Nadia has also written a few other books and created quotes of her own but she hasn’t completed them yet but she’s planning to. She’s into music and learning something new every single day using the help of the social media world. She believes that writing is an underestimated art, it’s exactly like painting colorful images in people’s minds by using words of black and white.

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The Romantic Notion: Time To Let Go of Romanticism

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Romance. Romantic love. How beautiful are these notions? I have already spoken about what is labeled as “romantic love” on more than one occasion. But this time I shall escalate it and speak about love for what it really is or should be. This time, I shall demonstrate that this notion that we all love, and desperately wish to have and to experience, is faulty, and does more wrong than it does us any good. I shall show that we all have been tricked by this romanticism into believing that something such s romantic love exists, when it really doesn’t–at least not in the sense it is portrayed.

So what is romantic love? Surely we all know it. It’s that thing that happens when two people fall in love with one another. Well, it could be wise to  know first that this notion hasn’t been here forever. It’s fairly recent, and brought to us with the blessings of poets and artists of the 18th century. Before that, unions and marriages were not based on a falling in love. Before that, unions and marriages were not based on falling in love. Unions before the 18th century were based on specific economic and social advantages. A man had a big farm and a woman had a number of sheep, so they would decide to form a union and get married.

Then Romanticism came along and promised us something different. Romanticism said hey: “you don’t have to think rationally about marriage anymore. Listen to your heart, to your feelings.” Romanticism tells us we will find someone, we will have a special feeling, we will fall in love, and it’ll be forever.

We all think this is exciting. We all patiently await this. We are deeply convinced by it, and we don’t doubt it for one minute.

Romanticism says we all have soulmates. There is exactly that one person (the soulmate) who is meant to be with exactly one person, and when it happens everything will be complete, and it’ll be forever, and eternity, and sunsets and beautiful days are what lies ahead.

But hey, what is wrong with this notion? This notion that we see in movies, hear in music, and real in novels. The answer is everything. But I will mention only two points which are very prevalent and fundamentally in romantic love.

Romanticism says that you will find our soulmate, and that person will love you for who you are. Wrong. That person fights with you exactly because he/she is beginning to use who you really are. Someone once said that the people who ov us end up leaving for the same reasons that brought them to us in the first place. Because who you really are is crazy. It’s insane and sometimes bad. Romanticism further says that we should show our partner the whole of us, the complete us. But no one really wants to see that. Certainly not the soulmate.”

The other thing romanticism urges is that when we are hurt we shouldn’t have to tell the person we love. Because he/she should already know how we feel. He/she loves us, so we keep silent, or we slam the door.

But why should we expect anybody at all to know how we feel without telling them how we feel? This is crazy. When someone is hurt, it’s not like a broken arm. The mere sight of an arm cast implies an injury in the body, but what about an injury in the soul? How are we to see that? How are we to fix that. The answer is: communication.

We should abandon the idea of fully exposing oneself to the other. If you expose yourself fully, then you show your partner how ugly you truly are. How dysfunctional and intolerant you are. Nobody wants to see that. You should never wait for the beloved to know or notice that you’re hurt. He/she is not a psychic, nor is it his/her job to be one. Communicate. Articulate your feelings. Show your partner that behind all that confidence and serious gaze there exists a baby who just wants a hug.

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You Should NEVER Accept These In A Relationship

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It seems to be the case that relationships are some of the hardest type of unions as they require a lot of enduring. In fact, according to Lisa Blum, Psy.D, a clinical psychologist in Southern California, “the strongest most enduring relationships take lots of hard work.”

But as part of helping ourselves cope with this struggle, there are often things that we should not accept in any relationship, and below are some of the important ones:

  1. STOP ACCEPTING BEHAVIORS THAT BREAK YOUR TRUST. There is a reason that trust is number one – because trust is the most important in each and every kind of relationship. Trust is the foundation upon which a relationship is built, and it is mistrust which often destroys it.
  2. STOP ACCEPTING NEGATIVE ENERGY. A positive relationship should mostly be uplifting, leaving you feeling inspired for the next meeting. You shouldn’t leave each meeting with someone feeling drained and negative, and you surely shouldn’t accept this negative energy in your closest relationships.
  3. STOP ACCEPTING SLUGGISHNESS. In order to be happy in a relationship, you must first be happy with yourself. When life gets busy and hectic, making exercising together a priority can be challenging.
  4. STOP ACCEPTING COMPETITION. Remain supportive and encourage the other person to do his or her best while also putting in your greatest effort – as long as you try your hardest and cheer your partner on, you’ll both come out on top!
  5. STOP ACCEPTING THAT YOU NEED TO CHANGE WHO YOU ARE. Whether or not the person verbalizes their dissatisfaction with you or you innately know that you must change in order for them to accept you doesn’t matter. What matters is that you do not feel comfortable being yourself, which shouldn’t be acceptable to you under any circumstance.
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Why Relationships Are So Demanding

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Romantic relationships are some of the most demanding type of unions there are. They weigh very heavily on us in a way that we recognize, but also in other ways that we do not necessarily see. The heavy weight which we don’t recognize is not something we don’t know, but rather something we don’t know that we know.

Let us keep it simple and talk about how this weight is created. The weight comes about as a result of certain paradoxes that take place within the relationship. These paradoxes are there for us to see, but we don’t always point at them and recognize them for what they are. Here are some of them:

  • Within the relationship, we gradually begin to demand certain things that we mistakenly think of as desires. They are in fact paradoxical. We demand a sense of belonging. We demand a sense of identity, but we also want transcendence and mystery.
  • We speak about security, but also about adventure. We want safety, but along with it we want risk and danger.
  • We demand comfort, but also edge. We demand novelty and a sense of originality, but we also want familiarity. We demand predictability and seek no unexpected events, but we also expect surprise.
  • We want the other to be our best friend and the person to trust and pour everything unto, but we also want to remain reserved and to keep things to ourselves. We wish to establish the strongest connection by getting the other as close as humanly possible, but at the same time expect the other to understand that we need distance and solitude.

It is all of these (and more) that put that heavy weight on our shoulders. We demand so much, we expect so much, but we don’t stop there: we then demand and expect the exact opposite from the other and somehow expect them to comply and understand. We don’t communicate it and we expect it to be applied.

How do we expect relationships to sustain with all of these existing? Why do we assume that they are all normal and have to be there? Why do we expect the other to have enough patience and understanding to live with these? How can we still claim to love the other when we treat them in ways that their energy cannot handle?

If we truly want to sustain our relationship with the other, we need to reflect on things like these. We need to re-visit our desires and evaluate them for what they are. We need to communicate it to the other.

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